"They met ONLINE, can you believe it?"

Do you hear this phrase a lot? I DO. I feel like the idea of meeting people online has become more widespread over the past 10 years than we actually realize. More and more people meet online, connect and as I have noticed, get married. Now I don’t have any statistics, but I can tell you I know about 3-5 couples just off hand who have met online and are now married.

First of all, let’s get one thing straight, there is no shame in meeting people on internet dating sites. Internet dating should be fun and remember,

“If it becomes boring or burdensome, it might not be for you…”

There is one rule of thumb when it comes to online dating and that is: HONESTY. No lying girlfriends… not about your height, weight, hair color or interests. Also, rule number two, just like dating in real life ;-) the guy must make the first move… whoever calls most, has more interest- but when it comes to internet dating, the man must contact you- NO EXCEPTIONS Ms. Thang, no matter how cute he is.

To take internet dating for a spin, Patti has a few fool-proof tips- so I have taken the liberty to give you the abridged version of her 12 page dedication to internet dating.



SO- Here we go…

A few notes on creating a desirable profile:

Picture Perfect
To get a better man, you must have a better photo.
Patti suggests the following-

Glamour shots
The picture must show from the top of your head to the bottom of your thigh… you would want to see the whole package, right?
No trendy clothes, just something flattering and possibly in multiple outfits.
Smile- men find engaging, warm and happy attractive.
NO ALCOHOL in pictures.

Provocative Profile
Honesty is the Best Policy
Be 100%HONEST.

Create a fun, flirty screen name… try to avoid placing ‘licious’ at the end of your name.
State what you have to offer first, and not what your intentions and desires are… use words like playful, energetic, fun, attractive… don’t be humble. DON’T use words like sexy and steamy…unless you’re looking for a quickie…

If you’re looking for a man who has some money to offer, veer away from phrases like,

“I’m looking for a generous man who will…”
and say something more like,
“I’m looking for a guy at the top of his game” or
“I’m doing great at my career and I hope you are too.”

Men do not like shopping with women.
Expand the search geographically by 100 miles of where you live- Love knows no distance.


If you take the above steps in highlighting your profile men will be lining up to add you as a friend and ask you out. You will get most attention in the first week and month of joining, so take advantage of being on the rotation of new, attractive women. To weed out the men of worthy, here are the ones you reject:

The man who gives you his number and asks you to call him for a date that night= QUICKIE
The man who asks for more photos= NARCISSISTIC PERFECTIONIST
The man who doesn’t ask for your number after 2-3 lengthy emails or deep conversations.
The man who has bad photos, who you think you’ll get back too= NOT EVER GOING TO LOOK BETTER.
The man who corrects your grammar and/or edits your profile= CLASSIC CRITICIZER.

Get to know the potential Mr. Rights and Patti says

"if he hasn’t arranged a date after two initial emails, he’s not serious about looking for a wife; he’s looking for an email buddy."

When you do meet someone who wants to take you on a date, remember:

COFFEE= Cheap
DRINKS= Audition
LUNCH= Interview
DINNER= Business

If he’ll spend money on you it indicates that he is serious AND this is crucial to know in any form of dating.

“The guy that wants to get married wants to spend that money on you.”

The man who has marriage on the mind is reading through profiles and just wants to find his match and get off the market.

CAUTIONS about online dating:

Knowing too much about him.
Deceit.
When meeting, go somewhere public and check in with a girlfriend before you go.
DO NOT go to his place after wards.
Watch to not get addicted- don’t spend longer than an hour or less on online dating- and only make it 1/3 OF YOUR SEARCH.

Phew, Patti just goes on and on about online dating… I’m thinking about going and getting an online profile myself after spending all day re-reading her ideas…
is she convincing enough for YOU?