"A man is like a cat; chase him and he will run - Sit still and ignore him and he'll come purring at your feet”

I love this quote, for three reasons:

1. I love cats.

2. I love men.

3. There is nothing but truth in this statement.

As Patti says

"In this man market, with so much competition from other beautiful women, YOU
want to be a mystery, and let him be intrigued by you."

Have I mentioned that I love her? She speaks the truth, and I know this from practice, and from mistake...

Let me tell you a story- I'm hoping you have a minute...

Once upon a time I was asked out by a nice gentlemen who I was introduced
to through a friend who I met and hung out with on a couple occasions at the
bar. Nothing exclusive, until... we exchanged phone numbers, he texted me, even
called me, and then asked me out on a date- for Tuesday night- I know, Tuesday
is NOT Saturday, but Tuesday is also my only weekday night free... so, I let a
weekday date slide for date one... anyway... We meet there, we have good
conversation, we devour some delicious sushi.. it goes well in my opinion... but
as the night comes to an end, he walks me to my house- we live in walking
distance of each other and of the restaurant. As he drops me off, he hugs me and
says,

"Well, call me sometime this week if you want to hang out over the
weekend..."

annnnd, much to my dismay I said

"OK."

(OK?!?!?! WHO AM I??) If I
have learned anything from Patti that is,

LET HIM CALL YOU!

This is not a hard concept.

Take notes--

As women, the phone can be are best friend or our worst enemy.

Women tend to use the phone to chat all day about ...well, nothing. We talk about our breakfast, our work day, how we feel, what we're doing later, who said something rude to us... the list goes on.

Men use the phone to talk about... business. Simple.

He or she that calls most has the most interest, and least control. Let me tell you a secret... I LOVE having control. Won't lie. I want the ball in my court at.all.times. and to do this, I will not call a guy more than he calls me, and that is that. I don't care how much I like him... if I like a boy more than he likes me, I have no control, and I might be seen as needy and demanding, and ONLY my sister is allowed to see that side of me- got it?

When a guy does call you, remember the "allure of again" as one of my best guy friends dubs it... only give him 15 minutes on the phone and then give him an upbeat excuse on why you have to get off.. and do not say you have to watch Jersey Shore. Make something up, for real.

Alright- the basics, we're not calling guys, they're calling us- right?

Let them chase you... it will be worth it!

In my experience I shared with you above, I should have kindly told him that...

"I'm a traditional girl- I prefer you to call me."

Instead, I spent 2 days wondering if I should call him... and in the end he texted me- we hung out again, had a good time, but that was 2 weeks ago.

I've saved myself some trouble and heartache on wondering if he likes me or not and have come to the simple conclusion that

He's just not that into me if he's not calling me...

NEXT PLEASE!