Game Show Love Connection

Alright, you're on a game show, called "Pick YOUR Guy" You have two choices...

In the first corner you have what we call CHEMISTRY- or-

Guy #1-

Attractive, sweet, likes you, you like him... Guy #1 doesn't really like his family, but tolerates them (yours too). Works about 20 hours a week at a dead end job, but, "a paycheck is a paycheck" according to him, so you deal because the chemistry is UNDENIABLE. You can sit in a room with Guy #1 and not talk and it be totally comfortable. It doesn't matter that Guy #1 doesn't really do much for you on holidays because... that's just him. Although you think Guy #1 treats you well, others would beg to differ.... BUT you like him and remain attracted to him because the comfort, because the chemistry and because you think you can fix it...

In the second corner we have "THE LIST" -or-

Guy #2-

Possesses at least 3/5 attributes on your list- or more. Guy #2 loves his family and is open to your family and vocally talks about a family someday. Guy #2 works or goes to school but is definitely motivated to succeed. Guy #2 makes you laugh and likes to make other people laugh. Maybe Guy #2 likes you... or makes you feel special, and might even do something nice for you on Romantic holidays. Maybe you like Guy #2, but something is missing... and you don't know what it is... but my guess might be it's not what you know and it's not a controlled environment like youre used too... you can't blink your eyes and try and fix it, it's new and refreshing... and scary....

Moment of truth.....

Who do you pick....?

Do you pick comfort and chemistry OR new and worthy?

It sounds like a trick... and I'm aware of that...

So, if I had to put myself in this position, let me tell ya.... OK, first do you want me to lie to you or tell you the truth?

Decision #1- TRUTH- I would pick Guy #1...WHY? Because I find that I'm slightly a control freak and the idea that that situation is comfortable, and possibly controllable is very attractive to me... Although Guy #1 does not have any of the attributes I am searching for, I am attracted to the chemistry.... the other question at hand would be..

WHY else am I attracted to him?? WHY? WHY? WHY?
There's no need to answer this because, lets be honest.... it wont work. It's been tried and effort has been made, but sometimes the Chemistry that lingers for years and years does not
overpower the fact that Guy #1 will not ultimately satisfy me...my wants, and needs and desires.

Decision #2- LIE- Guy #2- WHY? ....Why not? Why should I not think that I am worthy of a gentleman who would treat me the way I want to be treated... or why would I not be attracted to someone who possesses most, if not all of the things I want and need in a mate...maybe it's not Love at first site, but we see that didn't get me very far either..SO

What's wrong with something new...
Something different... Something that I can't control....
Nothing? Everything?

I have hypothetically thought about how I find that if I were on this game show and I had these 2 choices, why would I initially be attracted to something that is not good or healthy for me, and is NOT my LIST? I know what I want and need in a man, but why am I not attracted to it over Chemistry? It's slightly frustrating....

Needless to say, I'm glad this situation is just a game show, because I would HATE to have to even think about something like this.... it would be hard and slightly detrimental to everything I stand for.

But it's good to hypothetically create and analyze things........... just in case.