If You Build Him....

Since I'm slightly confused in what I'm looking for, you might be too... and that's OK ....because Patti says it's OK...and what Patti says..!

She lays out, yet another way to create/ manifest the guy of your dreams. It comes with a few steps, but with every step we take we are getting closer to finding him!

Patti points out that as clueless as some of us are in what we are looking for in a mate, we live in five distinct worlds:

SPIRITUAL *PHYSICAL * EMOTIONAL
* INTELLECTUAL *FINANCIAL

None of us split time equally between them, but we have to think about which worlds are most important to us and then we have to think about

"How important it is for your ideal mate to match up
to your preferences in each of these categories?"

So to sync your mind, body and soul Patti suggests to make a list... yes, another list, but really, these lists are quite beneficial... MAKE A LIST of at least 5 qualities that you want your potential mate to possess that fall under the above categories. Some may have 5 qualifications, and some may have 2 or 3, depending on how important each "world" is to you.

I will share with you my list, and in this I want to give you some advice. When you makes these lists of characteristic traits, make sure you are not tricking yourself into thinking that what you want/need is not a certain characteristic because that is what you currently have, or have had and quite possibly just settled, because you are doing yourself NO FAVORS in creating someone who does not fit your ideal mold.

Here is my list:
SPIRITUAL

1. Preferably not catholic... grew up Catholic, not particularly a fan

2. Spiritual, but not religious

3. Family is not religious
4. Preferably not of Islamic faith

PHYSICAL

1. Tall (6'0 or taller)

2. Kissable lips

3. In shape, but not bulky or muscly

4. Facial Hair

EMOTIONAL

1. Communication

2. Not afraid to write me sweet things..I love me a love letter

3. Wants kids and expresses excitement about it

4. Loves his famiy
5. Likes to laugh

INTELLECTUAL

1. Preferably on the liberal side of politics

2. Graduated college
3. Wants to travel

FINANCIAL

1. Saver, because I'm a spender.

2. Wants to invest in a house
3. Doesn't mind treating me
4. Has a solid job to do all these things.

So, I could possibly compromise some of these things, but this serves as a great outline to back up my 5MUST HAVES.

Patti is a firm believer in manifestation and " in order to manifest your dream guy" she has a specific recipe for us to follow and that consists of:::::

1. Get HAPPY- before you begin your manifestation process, DO WHATEVER IT TAKES to be happy. Whether it be eat chocolate, playing with puppies, taking a long bubble bath or watching a movie.... do it.

NOTE::: It is CRUCIAL this step is completed because

" HAPPINESS IS THE FUEL that will take you to where you want to go."

2. VISUALIZATION- Close your eyes, for 30 seconds (ish) and visualize what your want your particular desire to play out.

We are the AUTHORS, DIRECTORS AND ACTORS in the movie in our mind. Therefore if we want something to happen, we have to imagine it happening and the more we

"visualize how we want our lives to be, from A HAPPY PLACE,
the quicker it will happen."

3. "Now let go of the scene, but come back to it anytime you want and add more details to it."

This is kind of a trick.

Because Patti states that the more we practice this exercise and the more we become satisfied with the visualization, the less we will focus on it actually happening... and this is important because...

the UNIVERSE WILL ONLY REWARD YOU WHEN YOU ARE
IN A PLACE OF DESIRING WITHOUT KEEPING SCORE...

Patti says that anticipation is the funnest part in finding your perfect mate and the more you get caught up in enjoying the idea of him the less you will focus on finding him and then, out of no where, when we least expect it.... there he will be....

cute.
tall.
sexy.
sweet.
funny.
smart.

....You'll turn around, look him in the eye, smile, and just know. And wonder of wonders, SO WILL HE!