"So here..we.... go..." STEP ONE- Dating Detox

"Recovering from a bad relationship? Been on a series of bad disaster dates? Are you a one-date wonder? Just got dumped? Haven't been on a date in weeks, months, or years? Maybe you're a serial date who can't make a relationship last more than two months?" ALRIGHT, if you fall into any of these categories *and what single woman doesn't?* Patti suggests that the first step that you have to go through is called DATING DETOX.

This step is critical in succeeding in all the other steps... and lets not call this a "step process" because that sounds terribly self-helpish and that turns me off. Lets call it my *our* dating journey and in this journey, dating detox is my *our* time. It is exactly what it says... I am not going to date. This might be my favorite step because it is solely about ME. "It's not about men, not about friends, or family, it's not about anyone else- you purely focus on pleasing yourself."

In this step I am merely a caterpillar in my cocoon morphing into a beautiful sexy, irresistible butterfly... ok, slightly corny, but slightly true. I am taking time to figure out what MAKES ME HAPPY. And to do this, the time will vary based off how long my *our* previous relationship was soo..

1 year: 30 days of detox
2 years: 60 days of detox
3 years: 90 days of detox

I started this book in the beginning of March and am giving myself until May to even start to think about dating again. As I have tried dating the past few months and it was just awful. She is right, as I have tried dating it has done nothing for me but hinder my confidence and make me realize how not ready I was to move on... all in the while I was stringing guys on, which is never cool. So thus began my journey of self-improvement and self-fulfillment OR "STEP ONE."