I chose this as my title for this blog because this is the introduction to Patti's book. She explains that "every time a heterosexual female sleeps with a man-a good one, a bad one, it doesn't matter- she becomes bonded to that man, and no other man can exist for her." Man, when I read that I thought to myself how RIGHT ON she was. I have only slept with 2 people in my life and 1 of the 2 was purely sex, and this actually did not happen, but the other one, yes with Edmund was right on to this feeling. Women act in such ways because of a hormone called OXYTOCIN which starts to surge through our veins when we have sex with Joe Schmo. So really, the more sex we have with Mr. Schmo, the more chemically bonded we become and reinforces the bond we developed which is WHY you, or me, or your best friend will not leave their loser boyfriends, even though their BRAIN, friends, family and even their mailman are telling them to DUMP HIM.

I have been there, even though the sex stopped way before the relationship was over. And I'm glad there is actually something to blame for the irrational behavior I exhibited for many months. Unfortunately these days I see many of my friends falling into the wrath of oxytocin and there is no pulling them out. What do I do when I know nothing?
But yes, one gOOD Orgasm can very much spOil the bunch as you can find yourself emotionally and physically invested in someone who may not be deserving of the love you have primarily based off the fact that the sex is really good OR at any rate, sex is involved. AND that is why Patti is and advocate of monogamy. No sex until there is a serious relationship... as old fashioned as it sounds, it makes total sense and that is why I love her.
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